Untangle rage before your vacation

With spring holidays approaching, we're heading for the full travel season. Shortly after the end of spring, summer vacations begin. I don't know about you, but some people seem bent on converting vacations into paramilitary tours. They have schedules, paths, agendas, budgets, goals, supply inventories, and checkpoints. Ugh! This would drive me crazy. I love vacations that take me away from these things. Just accessing any holiday and leaving it can be a job. So what happens when the time when "relaxation" is supposed to spend a job, demand or other obligation? I thought about it: someone will lose their cool.

Ever get bumped from your flight? Have you ever had a flat tire on a long walk, or lost your wallet while traveling? Holidays are prime time to get angry out of control.

Things go wrong when we travel and cause minor problems ten times their normal size. Forget or lose an important personal item. Once on a weekend trip, my wife forgot her prescription allergy medicine. Suddenly, a simple trip to the pharmacy became a mega project. I remember another holiday with friends that led our SUV to park most of the trip.

When we are blinded by holidays, our usual protection may become ineffective. On the road, the probability of these problems increases dramatically. However, we Americans love to travel. We are more prevalent than other countries, except Canada, so holidays, family events and vacations usually mean traveling by car or plane to our destinations.

If you are planning a vacation to reduce your stress level, you might expect a lot from the trip. Traveling does not calm people. It often makes stress worse. Now, I am not advocating that people stop vacationing to exciting and enjoyable destinations. However, I defend a more rational approach to vacations.

As an impulsive person, I want to make sure my holidays really get active. Going to "around the world" within two weeks is not a plan for rest. It is a plan for a heart attack or outburst. Here is a short list of things to consider to reduce stress and help make your vacation comfortable rather than a seasonal career change:

1. Reduce the number of events you plan to attend. Take time to "savor" the experience. If the experience becomes boring, you can always add something, but if it is better than you can imagine, you will not want to short it for some abstract agenda. Vacations are for "relaxing and enjoying it."

2. Make way in your schedule to change it if someone else cannot keep their emotions for themselves. Remember that other people will be pressured due to over planning their trip to the same destination.

3. Reducing alcohol consumption. Nothing spoils a break faster than someone out of control. There are other ways to relax that are much safer and more effective.

4. Make an experiment about an experiment and not about spending. If you have a list of souvenir addicts at home, get things online when you get home. Your vacation is your time, not others

time. You wouldn't want it if your wife stopped a romantic dinner at sunset to make a business call. Don't let the family prevent you from getting the rest you need.

5. Set your vacation goals for the rest of your group. If your kids want a fun and action-packed holiday but want to sunbathe on the deck, this will only lead to struggles that spoil the right time for everyone, including your spare time. You may want to plan two separate holidays: one for children and one for you. If you really need a rest, plan to take you first so that you are "awake" to have a good time.

6. Be in the photos of your holidays and take fewer of them. Do not take all the pictures because it appears you were not there. Be part of the story of the trip. Many places record videos for you. Leave them while you enjoy the experience.

If you're having trouble planning a vacation without getting angry or nervous, see or Facebook: Ken Bomar, MS CART.